Updated: Jul 6
“Is this color too young looking for me?” I asked my husband about the color on my nails.
“Oh yeah looks like something a 14-year-old would wear,” he said with a smirk, and his sarcastic voice. “I’m kidding, I think it looks fine.”
He always seems to think it’s so silly the things I choose to worry about.
A few days later, I discussed with a friend how I had been feeling my age and the need to change my clothing style to a more mature, womanly wardrobe. She said she went through the same thing when entering her late 20s.
I believe that there are several stages of life where we choose to take a step back and reevaluate our lives and the decisions we make. It may not always be as frivolous as our nail color choice or wardrobe, but we are constantly evolving as we age.
This small conversation got me thinking.
When was the last time I evaluated my Christian walk? If I can be so quick to find my nail color inappropriate for my age, what things in my life are inappropriate as a seasoned, practicing Christian?
When we first get saved, we immediately evaluate our life and get rid of the sinful lifestyle we once lived. However, at some point in my personal walk, I got comfortable and stopped evaluating my choices. I was “Christian enough” and got stuck going through the motions each and every day.
This is not the life God intended for his children. Each and every day we should be reevaluating and maturing.
Remember when you were first saved and you could not get enough of learning and growing in God? You craved his spirit and words, and there was physical growth
Peter uses spiritual milk as a metaphor for this scenario.
“Therefore, rid yourselves of all malice and all deceit, hypocrisy, envy, and slander of every kind. Like newborn babies, crave pure spiritual milk, so that by it you may grow up in your salvation, now that you have tasted that the Lord is good.” 1 Peter 2:1-3 (NIV)
My 4-month-old has been breastfed since birth. He is one chunky baby, and there’s no denying he is well fed. However, one day as he matures, that milk will no longer sustain him or keep him full. He will be graduating to solid foods in the next few months in order to keep growing healthy and strong. Sadly, he can’t stay my sweet baby forever.
In our walk with God, we cannot stay in the newborn stage and expect to always be sustained by the “spiritual milk” we received in the beginning or else we will be stagnant.
“Brothers and sisters, I could not address you as people who live by the Spirit but as people who are still worldly—mere infants in Christ. I gave you milk, not solid food, for you were not yet ready for it. Indeed, you are still not ready.” 1 Corinthians 3:1-2 (NIV)
We should be taking up our cross daily and dying to ourselves. In order to graduate to “solid food”, we need to continually be refined and renewed.
“Create in me a clean heart, O God; and renew a right spirit within me.” Psalms 51:10 (KJV)
Instead of worrying about whether my nail polish is appropriate, I need to be daily asking myself, “are the things in my life serving a purpose in my walk with Christ, or are they holding me back from maturing in my relationship with Him?”
My physical age will change no matter what I do unfortunately, but my spiritual age is dependent on whether or not I choose to allow God’s love to cover and refine me. Each day is an opportunity to be shaped in the likeness of Christ.
“And we all, who with unveiled faces contemplate the Lord’s glory, are being transformed into his image with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit.” 2 Corinthians 3:18 (NIV)
I urge you to reevaluate, be refined and evolve each and every day to be more and more like Jesus.