This week we wanted to take a break from our regular posting schedule and pay homage to our amazing mothers by sharing some of the advice they shared with us throughout the years.
And from Unveiling Eden to you, Happy Mother’s Day!
Growing up I was a total daddy’s girl. As the years have gone on, I have clung to my mother. Not only because she’s a woman and her perspective has been key in my growing up, but I recognize the wisdom she has that I didn’t always appreciate as a teenager.
One of the most amazing lessons my mom taught me as a child was that other people’s prejudices towards me should not affect the way I treat that person or the way I feel about myself.
Growing up in the late 1990s and early 2000s as a young black girl in the South definitely had its drawbacks. Although I did not experience the same racism like generations before me, I definitely did experience it.
My mom’s words after I experienced racist behavior towards me has spoken volumes to me throughout my life, and I often reference this conversation as an adult.
She told me, “when you go to school, you treat her exactly the same you would anyone else.”
After all, it is the golden rule.
“Do to others whatever you would like them to do to you…” Matthew 7:12
Another piece of advice that my mother gave me after my first breakup was, “Never date the same guy twice.” I know this advice isn’t true for everyone, but it definitely gave me perspective moving forward.
She did not say much after that comment, but she gave me an assurance that once out of the relationship you were able to see things that you couldn’t quite see in the relationship and to remember why that relationship didn’t work out the first time after all.
I remember right when my first baby was born, I became overwhelmed with love and appreciation for my mom. Just the fact that while sleep deprived, she nursed me, bathed me, and held me close to her when I cried moves me to tears. We do not really remember those years, but they are huge.
Being a mom myself has also shown me that although she is a mother, she is still a person, one with weakness, but also great strength. I am beyond thankful for her and everything her life teaches me. She is woman that is quick to listen and slow to speak, choosing her words wisely. Regardless if she is tired or not, she works extremely hard and always keeps a good attitude. She is prudent in finances and always displays humility. She is truly a treasure, and I am proud to call her MOM.
I challenge you to find the treasure in your own mother, and let her know, because she deserves it, and she loves you more than you know.
Over the years, my parents have had their disagreements just as all couples have throughout their marriage. However, no matter how hard times got, my mom held to the standard of never saying a negative word about her husband to those around her.
“Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.” Ephesians 4:29
Sometimes in life, we face hard times and want to vent to others about those who have wronged us. But sometimes this can be so harmful to a person’s character.
My mother always said, “You see your husband’s worst and his best, and love him for it. Your friends and family do not have that privilege and will only be able to judge him based on the words you say.”
Because you love your husband, you will be quicker to forgive and forget his wrongs. However, a family member or friend who cares for you will judge your spouse based on what you share. If the only time you mention your husband is to bad mouth him, those people will always have a bitter opinion toward your spouse, my mother told me.
When I became married myself, I realized how much strength it took out of my mom to never complain about my father. Even as those around her complained about their own husband, she did not participate.
I am beyond grateful to have had this example from my mother to carry over into my own marriage.